Tips and Strategies for Parents
1 Look after yourself
As a mum and coach I juggle with feelings such as: I want to earn money and be there for my children, partner, friends and myself but it is such an effort to balance. We need to slow down and take also time for ourselves. To load up our battery and connect with ourselves. If we don't do that how can we take care of our partner and children? So book at least 1 day off in the month or even more when you can.
2 Connect with your child
What you do for yourself you can also do for your children. Be there for them. Pick a time during the week to really connect with them. Don't think that teens don't need it... they do. Your children don't have to know what time you pick, because that can put pressure on them. However it can also be a commitment you'll have towards each other. When we connect to our children they connect with us.
3 Help, I've made a mistake!
What to do when you make a mistake? You may have misjudged your child or made an inappropriate comment or perhaps you were in a bad mood and didn't react as kindly as you would normally do. Adults find it often tricky to admit that they made a mistake towards their children. There are a few ways we react to these situations.
4 Positive feedback
Giving Positive Feedback is an important skills to have. I think that if we can give our children during the day positive feedback about things they do, without over doing it, it will give them confidence. Rewarding the behaviour we want to see more of helps to get "rid" of the behaviour we want to see less of. Make an effort to see those little things which go well and make sure you mention them.
5 Role model
Some parents are not aware that they are THE role-models for their child. This already starts in the early stages. Yes the little ones who maybe even can't talk will observe you and copy your behaviour. Sometimes this can be funny and oops... that wasn't what I wanted them to pick up on. So be aware and think before you react. And I know this isn't easy, certainly not when we are agitated or annoyed about someone else.
Sometimes it seems as if we have continuously problems in our family. Kids don't listen, irritation all around, more negativity then having fun together... and actually we want the best for all of us. What can we change or what can we do to react differently? My suggestion would be to first figure out what you think is not going so well and see if that is really true.